Forgive So You Can Be Forgiven

 Forgive So You Can Be Forgiven 

1. Forgiveness is not about the other person. It is about freeing yourself from the poison of unforgiveness.

2. Unforgiveness is a form of self-punishment. It keeps you trapped in the past and prevents you from healing and moving on.

3. Forgiveness is not the same as condoning the other person's behavior. It simply means letting go of your anger and resentment.

4. Forgiveness is a process, not a one-time event. It may take time and effort to forgive someone, especially if they have hurt you deeply.

5. There is no right or wrong way to forgive. What matters most is that you find a way to forgive that works for you.

6. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. It allows you to move on with your life 

and find peace and happiness.

7. Forgiveness is a choice. It is something that you have to actively decide to do.

8. Forgiveness is not easy. It can be very difficult to forgive someone who has hurt you deeply.

9. Forgiveness is not weakness. It takes strength and courage to forgive.

10. Forgiveness is not conditional. You do not have to wait for the other person to apologize or change their behavior before you forgive them.

11. Forgiveness is not forgetting. It is about letting go of your anger and resentment, but it does not mean that you have to forget what happened.

12. Forgiveness is not reconciliation. Forgiveness is about you, not the other person. You can forgive someone without having a relationship with them.

13. Forgiveness is not always possible. There are some people who may not be deserving of your forgiveness.

14. Forgiveness is a journey, not a destination. It is something that you work on every day.

15. Forgiveness is a gift that you give yourself. It allows you to heal and move on from your past.

T.D. Jakes also shares some specific tips for forgiving in his book:

• Pray for the person who hurt you. This may seem difficult, but it can help you to let go of your anger and resentment.

• Write a letter to the person who hurt you. You do not have to send the letter, but writing it can help you to process your feelings and come to terms with what happened.

• Talk to a trusted friend or family member about what happened. Talking to 

someone you trust can help you to feel supported and understood.

• Seek professional help if you are struggling to forgive. A therapist can help you to work through your feelings and develop coping mechanisms.

Forgiveness is a powerful tool that can help you to heal from your past and move on with your life. If you have been hurt by someone, I encourage you to consider forgiveness. It may not be easy, but it is worth it.